“Laugh at yourself, but don’t ever aim your doubt at yourself. Be bold. When you embark for strange places, don’t leave any of yourself safely on shore. Have the nerve to go into unexplored territory.”
If you’ve ever
suffered through had the opportunity to take a Myers-Briggs assessment, you may or may not remember your alphabet soup personality type. I always seem to come up as ENFP – Extroverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Perceiving. Over the years, I’ve been told many times that I’m very perceptive or intuitive – I can usually smell a rat long before anyone else does, and I always know when “something is up”.
Extroverted – yes, I love people. I can be a chatty Cathy anywhere – and then there are those times like last night… I attended a social media event solo. I had no plans to meet up with any friends and would probably only see a familiar face or two at best. The speaker happened to be Scott Stratten, someone I’ve “followed” online since about 2008. Love his life and business philosophies and was very excited when I heard he was going to be speaking in San Diego – especially since he lives in Canada! I purchased my ticket immediately. Yes, ticket. Just one. My usual social media companions were not going to be around, and going by myself didn’t bother me – I have no problem eating, traveling, or going to events alone.
As we were waiting to get into the event, I met a very nice woman who was waiting for a friend to arrive. We had a chance to talk a bit and when her friend arrived, I headed inside to the networking (mixer) portion. I took a quick glance around the room and everyone was paired up nicely, or in some sort of group. I took that opportunity to meet Scott and have “The Book of Business Awesome” signed. Then I took another glance around the room and the pairing was still in effect so I took the opportunity to get my complimentary drink. I had a brief chat with a couple more people and then went through those awkward moments where the timing just doesn’t flow for breaking into a conversation. I morphed from Chatty Cathy to Nerdy Nelly. Bleh. Circled for a bit before I was really happy to see that it was time for Scott to take the stage and I headed to my seat and sat down to relax and enjoy the rest of the evening.
One of the first slides that came up was the picture above – it was a little too dark to take a good shot. It read – “Anyone can be cool, but Awesome takes practice” it was related to the book content of being awesome in business, but also as a person. It made me smile and forget about my earlier moments of nerdiness. I was happy that I had the chance to meet someone who’s work I enjoy and respect, and that I didn’t chicken out on going solo. It’s always good to stretch yourself and practice on being awesome!
I would love to know – do you have a favorite tip for “breaking into a group” in a social setting?by