Mindset Matters 2013

Posted by on January 4, 2013 in Day to Day | 2 comments

What I focus on in life is what I get. And if I concentrate on how bad I am or how wrong I am or how inadequate I am, if I concentrate on what I can’t do and how there’s not enough time in which to do it, isn’t that what I get every time? And when I think about how powerful I am, and when I think about what I have left to contribute, and when I think about the difference I can make on this planet, then that’s what I get. You see, I recognize that it’s not what happens to you; it’s what you do about it. 
W. O. Mitchell

Mindset matters this year and every year we are alive. Yes, it’s a new year, but what does that really mean and why does it matter so much? One minute it’s 2012 and a sixty second count down and ball drop later, it’s 2013 – WooHoo!  What REALLY changes in that moment? I always love a celebration, but what I love even more is celebrating REAL, measurable change, accomplishments, or breakthroughs.

I love the first sentence of  the quote above “what I focus on in life is what I get”.  To me, that means that my MINDSET will determine my success.  According to wordnetweb.princeton.edu/perl/webwn  Mindset is defined as “mentality: a habitual or characteristic mental attitude that determines how you will interpret and respond to situations.”  I chose the picture for the quote because I know that at that point in my life, I had no self-limiting beliefs. I could stand on tables, wear funny hats and eat cake without worrying about what anyone would think. I was in a state of constant learning and growth, and that is the part of me that I always want to keep!

What is your current mindset towards something you would like to change this year?  It doesn’t matter how big or small the change you want to make is – it could be a relationship, your health, or “simply” organizing your junk drawer (and keeping it that way). Are you looking at it as something overwhelming that in that deep dark recesses of your mind, you really don’t think you can change anyway? Is it a mindset of  beating yourself up over past “failed” attempts? OR are you looking at it as something exciting, an opportunity to learn or experience something new?

It may sound trite to say that how you look at, or perceive something will determine your success, but over and over and over again, I have found that how I look at things makes all the difference in the world in the outcome. My entire life has been one long series of scaring myself shitless with new endeavors, goals or experiences. Yes I get scared, but I do it anyway one small step at a time – or in the case of the first time I went skydiving – a giant leap of faith out of a plane at 13,000 feet – what an amazing feeling!

Something else that has helped me is always feeling like a student of life. I love learning so I look at change as a learning experience. When making a change, I try to dig deep to find out WHY I really want or need to make the change. Going through that process can give you incredible clarity and will become your driving force.  Other times, it may help you find that the change you’re making isn’t really something YOU want or need to do. If that’s the case, re-evaluate and decide to take it off your list or move forward. Lastly, find out what methods work best for you in achieving change – is it with the help of an accountability buddy or system, a reward system or do you work best with visualization, a coach, etc.  Have fun with the process and learn to enjoy learning more about yourself along the way. You really can do anything you put the proper mindset to!

What changes are you currently working on? Would love to see your comments 🙂


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  1. Love your post D! And I completely agree that your mindset matters and it is important to consciously choose to focus on things that are in line with what you want and to stop looking for things that aren’t going well.

    This year I am working on changing my beliefs and smashing through anything that is slowing down my momentum and holding me back. One thing that has really been helping me is creating a list of 200 reasons why I deserve to reach my goal. I am creating a mind map with my ultimate goal in a box in the center and I have started creating boxes branches out from the center with all of the reasons that I deserve to be successful. It was really eye-opening to see how few reasons I could come up with when I first started (only 6)! But it is amazing, when you keep at it how the reasons just start multiplying. I’m not quite at 200 yet, but I am well on my way!

    If this is something you haven’t done before I highly recommend it!

    As another life-long student of life, I look forward to reading more of your posts!
    Melissa Wright

    • Hi Melissa – Thanks so much for stopping by – I love the mind map idea :).

      I’m very visual so I love mind mapping in general. Great way to keep a positive view on your goal and remember that you are very worthy of your goals! It Sounds like you’re on your way to making it happen, congrats!


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